In today’s modern society, being gay has become less a taboo & more a part of the norm. The levels of acceptance towards gays and lesbians has been a source of encouragement for more kids to come out during high school. But just because it is less of a taboo doesn’t mean that it is any less difficult being gay or out in high school as it was many years ago.
One thing that has not changed though, is the fact that we ALL have to deal with the tremendous pressure of coming out at some point, for some it’s easier than others. For example, if you’re flamboyant or you’re a stud you’d only have to come out to the ridiculously oblivious. For those who don’t have that luxury, coming out can be a completely different experience. It may be a walk in the park for some , accepting friends, family, environment, etc. But unfortunately for others it may turn their lives into a living hell. They may be bullied or even kicked out of their homes but regardless of the experience, the fact that kids feel comfortable enough to come out at such young ages show that the LGBTQ movement is headed toward a positive and elevated direction.
Once you get past “coming out” the biggest part of being a gay teenager is how your sexuality socialize and interact with others while you're still upholding your morals. One of my biggest morals is to always put more than just my sexuality forward. Even though your sexuality is a huge part of who you are, you can’t let it be all that you are. Be known as that intelligent, funny, beautiful gay kid, not just “that gay kid”. At school and at home you don’t want to be just “that gay kid”, you want to be that kid that has so much to offer that her/his sexuality isn’t even a focal point of who she/he truly is.
Another big moral of mine as a teenager is that, I refuse to befriend anyone that is against gays in anyway. The way I see it, it’s like a black person overlooking the fact that their friend is a skinhead because they want to fit in. And if I hear “faggot” or “that’s so gay” come from them, or anyone for that matter, I’ll call them out on the spot. If you have anything negative to say about gays, you can back that ass up because I want nothing to do with you. I am not going to let anyone speak about me negatively and still call them my friend. As a gay teenager, it’s extremely important to figure out where you stand with issues pertaining to the LGBTQ. community.
Just like straight kids, a big aspect of being a gay teenager are relationships. Depending on where you live, it may be extremely easy or difficult to find a significant other in high school. It has been, it is, and it will always be more difficult to be in a same sex relationship than a straight one in my opinion, but only if you let it. Yes you get the stares, the whispers, and all other forms of bullshit. If you’re not getting it at school, you may get it at home, with homophobic parents. But some way and somehow, you have to find a way to rise above it. I know it’s much easier said than done, but you will find a way to do it. You have to trust that the love you and your partner share will protect you from the negativity of the world. Prepare yourself mentally for the stress that comes with being in a same sex relationship. In addition, people will make disgusting comments but its your job to make them understand that love is love.
Being gay in high school has undoubtedly gotten better, however, it’s still unacceptable that gay teenagers have to endure ignorant shit...It’s unacceptable that some kids are bullied to death by peers or even their own families.... It’s unacceptable that some teachers stand by and watch. And.... It’s unacceptable that we accept them but not all of them accept us.
Blog Written by: Zelor follow her on twitter @ZeusMaxximus
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Blog Written by: Zelor follow her on twitter @ZeusMaxximus
A member of TeamElevate support positive movement http://www.gofundme.com/teamelevate
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