Dating someone with kids when you don't have any, can be a beautiful experience or a nightmare...
So if you're in a relationship with someone who has kids and feel as if your under pressure to become part of the family or perhaps your partner never has time for you...what can you do?
If you love that person then you will accept the fact that their time revolves around their children. But that doesn't mean that you don't have feelings. Expect to come in second place most of the time and expect to feel as if you're being ignored. Raising children is an experience and one that you are now apart of. If your feeling overwhelmed perhaps it might be a good idea to express your concerns with your partner. Rather than pretending that you're OK with everything, speak up and tell her/him how you feel. When you do express your feelings, try not to make your partner feel as if her/him having kids is ruining the relationship. But, rather offer suggestions on how she/he can give you more attention..and be REASONABLE..PATIENT and FLEXIBLE.
On the other hand, those with children in a relationship, here's a few suggestions, try not to impose your responsibilities as a parent on to your partner, because this may push them away, if you two are married, then parenting should be equally shared, if not don't expect your partner to play mommy/daddy. Make time for your partner..there's 24hrs in one day..try to at least take out one of those hours for your partner..And lastly plan your evening..As a mother of three, I find that having a schedule for my kids and putting them to bed at a descent hour, allows me to spend time doing personal things.
So make sure you put the kids to bed on time or hire a babysitter, so that you can have a well arranged evening with your partner...And in time you both will reap the rewards of all your hard work...
GOOD LUCK ;)
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